how to come up with a 90s party outfit day-of event

90s outfit elements rest on a bathroom counter, a black choker is draped over rolled-up jean shorts on top of a balled-up black & white flannel button-up shirt

today, I’m attending a members-only event at the Millhouse McKinney – the women’s creative coworking space I joined in January 2020 and now teach home bartending workshops at. it’s the Millhouse’s Membership Engagement Coordinator, and my friend, Whitney’s birthday today. she loves the 90s (not as much as the 80s, but same) so I’m excited for the happy hour and actually going to dress up in a 90s party outfit, which I haven’t before. so you may as well come along for the ride as I decide for myself. as I google for ideas, I also remember my sister went to a 90s theme night at a local country dance bar I’m pretty sure. and she’s much more stylish and more regularly well-put-together than I am, so let’s ask […]

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how to create a skincare ritual to manifest the best skin of your life

witch hazel blossoms

i’d struggled with acne from the time I was like, eleven. actually, I remember the scent of using my first face wash at a sleepover in 5th grade, which is yeah, 10-11 years old. and, any out-of-my-control acne issues were only exacerbated by my skin-picking tendencies, which is an anxious bad habit i’ve had for as long as i can remember. my amount of “new acne” + irritated redness reached a new level of looking terrible after I went away to college and i continued to try spot treatment after scrub of new products. i was grasping at anything that could possibly help make u-turns out of all my skin’s turns for the worse. i remember walking into the college station ulta yet again one day, only this time, i […]

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taylor swift’s evermore, my secret session

i’ve loved taylor swift ever since i was 15, and my first boyfriend had just broken up with me over the phone, and i heard a song come on the radio called “tim mcgraw” that captured everything i was feeling so poignantly. and taylor hasn’t stopped writing the soundtrack to my life for the last 15 years. i swear, every time she comes out with a new album, it’s like she’s been spying on what’s going on in my exact reality + writes songs specifically about situations i’m experiencing. and i guess that’s exactly what makes her a fantastic songwriter in my eyes. every song has a story. she writes pure raw emotion, and somehow finds words to convey the most nuanced of relationship dynamics. and i think how […]

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how to outline your diary novel in a day with save the cat!

i’ve wanted to write a novel ever since i remember learning to read chapter books in 1st grade with some book that had a dolphin next to a cliff on the cover. after much consideration + deliberation over the last couple of years, i’ve decided i wish to self-publish my novels as my ideal dream career. so, what is the one thing most important to accomplishing this dream?  writing the dang book of course! and how do you write a book? one scene at a time.  or at least, following an outline of scenes is how i’m choosing to write this first diary novel of mine. i’m committing to writing 29,000 words of my first novel first draft in december 2020, and outlining is the first step of my […]

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how to make your get fit plan with “fuck being fat”

how to make a plan to fuck being fat

i’ve been saying i want to lose weight since 2013, when reid and i got married and i gained 20 lbs in a summer. so, this is me committing to actually make a plan and take intentional, trackable action towards that end in december 2020. first off, alan roberts opens with a disclaimer so i feel i should take this opportunity to as well: i fully intend to use colorful language on my blog and in my novels, because i’m nothing if not colorful. i just think it’s the silliest thing that someone would create a word only for it to be deemed “bad” or “unsavory” or “offensive”. i personally think it’s offensive that someone would create a word with such great emphatic effect as “fuck” and then try […]

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december intentions + writing updates for this year

Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

Here’s what I feel like I had to learn in 2020 before executing on what I’m planning for my December intentions: I basically spent a whole bunch of time coming up with ideas for both blogs + books but never really committing to which I wanted to focus on creating first. Also, I had been helping Reid create his online course and launch his company for most of this year, so when he launched before Thanksgiving, I feel like a huge weight lifted, and now I feel more free to start committing to what content I want to create for my own writing. I think I’m finally giving myself permission to stop feeling guilty that I’m in such a place of privilege to be able to focus on my […]

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mirror matrix habit tracker (my new moon goal-setting system)

mirror matrix

This has gotten to be a bit of a chunker of a blog post, so here’s a TLDR; last Friday was the new moon in Gemini and also Lincoln’s birthday, so first I talk pet numerology (what else?) and then go on to talk about my personal development plan for manifesting my dreams by goal-setting with the moon cycles including how I now track my habits towards my goals with what I call my “mirror matrix”. may 22, 2020 — new moon in gemini, and, Lincoln’s birthday! Just for funsies, I decided to look up some pet astrology and numerology for Lincoln on his solar return. If you take Lincoln’s date of birth (5.22.2016) and add up the digits (5 + 22 + 2 + 0 + 1 + […]

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