lifestyle changes my therapist recommended when I re-started therapy in 2021 + told her I wanted to stay off anxiety meds

therapy journal page

Here are all my notes from my journal page that July 2021 day I went back to therapy after stopping my anxiety meds in October 2020. my therapist’s recommendations for lifestyle changes to help manage anxiety without medication: start recognizing anxiety’s messages to me –> journal out anxious thoughts “do it tomorrow” = anxiety decrease caffeine —> I was never really a coffee person, but I’m for sure a tea person now put all goals IN WRITING – also share with my writing accountability partner 30 min walk 3x/week —> can also delay/prevent alzheimer’s (not fact-checked, but she said it so I wrote it) eat a variety of fruits + veggies, chicken + fish chemicals in our stomach help keep anxiety + depression away and/or supplement with vitamins below […]

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how I finally reached a goal weight for the first time after 8 years

danielle walking lincoln

Ever since we arrived in California in August 2013 and I weighed myself for the first time since before we got married in May and saw I’d gained over 20 pounds in that one summer, it’s been on my mental to-do list to lose weight. now, I’ve lost over 20 pounds in the last year and I feel great. I stopped weighing myself in october once I reached the goal weight for my annual physical, and feel like I’ve been maintaining just doing what I’ve been doing since. After I wrote the “Fuck Being Fat” post last year, I actually never stuck with even one solid week of my own plan. Even though all the advice out there pretty much says that counting calories is the one surefire way […]

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how to be an adorable badass with arctic fox aquamarine hair

color magic ultimate aquamarine

I was musing on my definition of magic as I got ready with my color magic practice (matching my bottom eyeliner to my arctic fox aquamarine hair) earlier so figured I could try to document as much as I can in 10 minutes. I think that real life magic is best described as our god-given free will to create change in our lives and in the world. And for me, color magic is maybe my best example of magic within my control. A crap ton of anxiety-producing scenarios are not within my control. My ability to match my bottom eyeliner to my hair color and feel like an adorable badass on the regular? 100% within my control. monday 4:31pm My 86-year-old neighbor just knocked on my door, mainly to […]

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dream diary entries june 2020

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monday, june 15, 2020 8:59a – I don’t remember my dreams already except I feel like we were on a houseboat at some point. thursday, june 18, 2020 8:38am – Disc golf course on a horseback lesson barn land, Reid played with others while I got a tour of an adjoining property with space for just a couple horses + the owner killed his old grey poodle-ish looking dog in front of me! After having his two horses do tricks in their stalls like bow. Then, we couldn’t find Reid’s disc golf bag or my change of clothes in the rows where people store bags while playing, and we had to escape the bad people killing dogs, so I ran to my friend from 3rd grade’s house in the […]

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catch up on life so far in 2021

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september 8, 2021 // 8:11am good morning on this wild wild wednesday! I call it that because Reid left out of town yesterday, meaning I’m left to my own devices today, which means it gets very wild wild west-y ’round these here parts. well, I am in the process of locking down a blogging gig, getting to write about all the things I want to be writing about for my own personal development but for a really cool local store and group of women I’m really excited to start blogging some events with… but more on that coming later. basically, I was trying to say that somehow by procuring this official blog gig, my mindset has shifted and I now feel totally liberated to use my blog to document […]

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how to create a skincare ritual to manifest the best skin of your life

witch hazel blossoms

i’d struggled with acne from the time I was like, eleven. actually, I remember the scent of using my first face wash at a sleepover in 5th grade, which is yeah, 10-11 years old. and, any out-of-my-control acne issues were only exacerbated by my skin-picking tendencies, which is an anxious bad habit i’ve had for as long as i can remember. my amount of “new acne” + irritated redness reached a new level of looking terrible after I went away to college and i continued to try spot treatment after scrub of new products. i was grasping at anything that could possibly help make u-turns out of all my skin’s turns for the worse. i remember walking into the college station ulta yet again one day, only this time, i […]

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how to make your get fit plan with “fuck being fat”

how to make a plan to fuck being fat

i’ve been saying i want to lose weight since 2013, when reid and i got married and i gained 20 lbs in a summer. so, this is me committing to actually make a plan and take intentional, trackable action towards that end in december 2020. first off, alan roberts opens with a disclaimer so i feel i should take this opportunity to as well: i fully intend to use colorful language on my blog and in my novels, because i’m nothing if not colorful. i just think it’s the silliest thing that someone would create a word only for it to be deemed “bad” or “unsavory” or “offensive”. i personally think it’s offensive that someone would create a word with such great emphatic effect as “fuck” and then try […]

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